Have you ever seen a woman who looks positively radiant, orgasmic and like she’s overflowing with sexual energy and pleasure?
You can pretty much tell she’s having regular orgasms by the glow in her skin, the way she walks and how she laughs in such a carefree, light-hearted manner.
She’s dialed into her ecstasy and everyone wants some.
Maybe she’s found the Fountain of Youth…
Maybe she’s tapped into some sort of “secret” that other women just don’t know about or have access to…
Well, part of that is true.
She has tapped into a secret. Five “secrets” actually (at least).
The even more delightful part about that is that it’s really not a secret. It’s innate and all five “secrets” are possible for every woman, you included, and INSIDE of you already, waiting for you to tap into it and discover it like your own personal Fountain of Youth.
Listen to today’s podcast episode and learn…
- Five “secrets” to becoming an orgasmic woman (HINT: they’re natural for you already, but may need a little awakening)
- Two principles to implement to get what you’re really craving sexually (these will help you become orgasmic)
- A glimpse into my past and how I’ve returned to my deeply erotic, highly orgasmic nature after years or sexual shame (and how YOU can too)
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THINGS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
How to Open Your Heart & Pussy (Article)
A Sexual Practice to Have Your First (or Best) Orgasm (Video on how the jade egg is a practice of surrender)
How I Experienced Orgasm While Walking on the Beach (Podcast)
The Key to Ecstatic Sex (Video)
By the way, if you want to begin or deepen a jade egg practice and really tap into your erotic power, pleasure and orgasmic potential, then I invite you to grab a free copy of my jade egg ebook, Awaken Your Erotic Power Using a Jade Egg.
When you sign up, you’ll also get invited to join me in a couple of weeks when I reveal my complimentary jade egg video salon, which is a free 3-part video series that will take you on a journey through the power and beauty of using a jade egg to awaken vaginal pleasure, harness your sexual energy and connect you back to your deeply erotic and highly orgasmic nature as a woman.
If you prefer to read rather than listen, you can read the transcript below:
Today’s episode is all about the orgasmic woman and the so-called secrets that allow her to be that way.
The thing I’ve realized from my intensive studies (all of which I’ve personally played with and embodied), coaching other women and all of the countless hours (from pretty much age 2-26) of engaging in self-pleasure and the experience of orgasm is that there are certain things most women don’t have awareness around when it comes to their sexuality, pleasure and orgasmic nature.
Honestly, what I’m going to share with you really shouldn’t be a secret…every woman should know them, because they’re powerful and part of our sensual, erotic nature as women.
They’re innate and come as part of our natural biological blueprint when we’re born as sexual beings, but we’ve unfortunately lost that sacred connection with our pleasure, sexuality and the deeply erotic side of us, which yes, includes being orgasmic.
In fact, as you listen I’m sure you’ll realize that they aren’t all that secretive anyway. You might have a deep and profound remembering of how you once were orgasmic or maybe an in the moment awakening that unfolds deep in your yoni or belly calling you home to your naturally orgasmic and deeply erotic nature.
Before we really dive into this, let me invite you to ponder this question…do you feel like you are a living, breathing, walking orgasm?
If not, please keep listening, because what I’m going to share with you can and will change your life if you’re committed to remembering and returning home to what’s inside of you. The erotic medicine. The buried treasure of your pleasure. Your orgasmic potential.
If you do feel that way, keep listening anyway, because as I love to say, there is always another layer and level to reach and embody within ourselves and our lives. Especially when it comes to sexuality and pleasure and most definitely with orgasm.
The beautiful thing is that orgasm isn’t just about climax. It’s actually about pleasure and sexual energy and how much you feel and circulate them throughout your day. It goes beyond just sexual encounters, but we’ll get into this more as I reveal each secret to you.
First I want to give you some perspective on why I’m sharing this with you by giving you a glimpse into my past and present.
Beginning at the very young and innocent age of 2 years old, I had a very strong and deeply embodied relationship with my own pleasure, orgasm and sexual energy. This quickly turned into something that would become distorted and misunderstood though.
As a toddler I was able to access my full erotic power and innocence. It felt like ecstasy inside of my whole body (not just my genitals) from grinding my little body against the floor. I was highly orgasmic and quickly became addicted to doing this ritual several times a day.
For me, it was how I connected to the divine, even though at that age I had no idea that it was a place of divine, erotic love that I was accessing within and without myself.
The memories and sensations of those moments are still fresh in my mind and of course stored in my body too, letting me drop in and remember how it felt to be so young and so innocently erotic and orgasmic.
Unfortunately my family didn’t, and still doesn’t, understand what was happening. That I was simply doing what all kids do–exploring my own body and pleasure, sensually and erotically while being fully and completely tapped into my source of sexual and orgasmic energy that courses through all of us as LIFE-FORCE.
I remember being dragged to the doctor to blow on a tissue. I’m not totally sure why that is, but I can only guess that my family thought I was throwing temper tantrums on the floor when in reality I was connecting to that erotic power and the ecstasy of my orgasm.
That was the time I developed not only beliefs in my mind that these feelings and sensations of erotic power, sexual energy, pleasure and waves of orgasmic bliss are not welcome, safe or good, but I also began to store this trauma and shame in my yoni and womb.
My body started shutting down and I couldn’t access the full power of my orgasm anymore, but I was still addicted to it for the high that it brought.
When I would grind into the floor, my face would get really red because I would close my whole body down, hold my breath and begin straining, pushing, forcing, trying to reach, control and manipulate the orgasm. The orgasm that had been so free-flowing, surrendered and filled with love and ease before, but was now something I had to force from a disconnected, disassociated space of shame, secrecy and pain.
I became disembodied. My body was no longer safe. And my pleasure, sexual energy and orgasm? They were not welcome. Because of them, my family thought something was wrong with me, that I wasn’t normal and that I didn’t belong. So I felt that too and it became embedded deeply within my psyche, womb and yoni.
A few years ago is when I finally decided to dive into the darkness and reclaim my sensuality, sexuality and erotic nature. Along with that came a new, more profound and much deeper relationship and understanding of my orgasm.
The amazing thing is that even from a really young age I would daydream about sex and orgasms that shook me to my core, opened me up to deeper love and made me feel changed forever.
I wanted to be penetrated so deeply and fucked open to my core. This is something I realized on a different level as I got older, but I didn’t know that it was possible.
Allow me to share some of my present story with you. Everything has shifted for me since tapping into and implementing these secrets I’m going to reveal to you of being an orgasmic woman.
Like I asked you in the beginning of the episode, I do feel as though I’m a living, breathing, walking orgasm. In fact, I have a podcast episode from a couple of months ago that you might enjoy listening to where I talk about an experience I had with orgasm while walking on the beach. Listen to it here.
This ties into the first secret of an orgasmic woman that I’d like to reveal to you…
1.) An orgasmic woman understands that she is HER orgasm and that it’s a way of being, living and embodying her pleasure and sexual energy deeply.
It’s not just about the experience of climax, which we usually refer to as orgasm.
Climax is the contraction and release in our genitals during sex or self-pleasure. It’s built-up sexual tension and energy usually localized in the genitals, especially the clitoris for women.
Orgasm is a way of living and BEING. You can feel your circulating sexual energy, arousal and pleasure, which feel like waves of orgasmic bliss, that seem to flow and ripple through you on a daily basis.
Orgasm is about presence.
It can come from drinking a cool glass of lemon water, feeling overcome with orgasmic pleasure from it sliding down your throat slowly and sensually.
It can come from dancing so ecstatically to the endless beat of your favorite music, undulating and moving your body in ways that make you feel deeply embodied in orgasmic energy.
It can come from a kiss so soft, still and tender that you can feel your sexual energy flowing between your lips and the lips of your lover.
How can you invite your orgasm in as a state that you embody? Not just a climax and release of sexual tension or energy in your genitals. How can you choose to see your orgasm as a state of BEING and LIVING with presence in the moment of pleasure?
2.) This takes us deeper into secret #2, which is that an orgasmic woman embodies her sensuality and pleasure in the present moment fully.
She revels completely. She understands again that orgasm is about presence and being IN the moment now. Not in her head. Not disconnected or disassociated from her body.
She can sit in a silent meditation and feel her erotic pulse and rising sexual energy that washes over her like a fountain of orgasmic ecstasy.
She can feel the vibration of her voice in her throat as she speaks in a low, sultry tone to her lover and notice how her body responds to this orgasmic vibration.
Sensuality is the key to having a love affair with our bodies, because sensuality is about using our five senses to connect to and fully experience our internal and external environment.
As we are using our sensuous abilities we are gathering information in our bodies about what we’re experiencing, whether pleasure or pain.
The more sensually embodied we become the safer it becomes to feel and live in a state of pleasure. And pleasure is where our sexual energy and orgasm builds from.
When we are sensual in our lives, we become engaged, fully ALIVE and TURNED ON to everything. This goes beyond the stuff we typically consider a turn on, like sexual experiences.
You become turned on by the feel of wet sand in between your toes.
Or the sensation of silk sheets under your bare skin.
Or the way someone gently caresses your arm with love and adoration.
When we live in that space, we become orgasmic, because again, orgasm is about a state of living, being and embodying our pleasure and sexual energy in the present moment.
Are you ready for me to reveal the 3rd secret of an orgasmic woman? This is by far the most important component, but it’s often where women struggle the most. So what is it?…
3.) She surrenders fully and trusts deeply.
Being sensual, orgasmic and erotic doesn’t just equal alluring glances, sexy body movement and life-altering orgasms. That’s all a part of it, but in order to become your orgasm and live your life in a deep state of pleasure (regardless of what’s happening around you), you have to implement these two principles.
SURRENDER and TRUST.
I know that it feels impossible to do those two things sometimes. I’ve personally experienced many situations that have forced, or invited me, rather, to come face to face with surrender and trust on a deeper, more intimate level than I was usually ready for.
But when are we ever really ready?
I’ve been so deeply devoted to adopting the practice (and art) of surrender and trust, especially when it comes to love and sex. Whether it’s just with yourself or with someone you care about very deeply.
Becoming your orgasm means to become one with the erotic pulse of life. The life-force that creates everything and is inside of you.
Can you flow with your heartbreak and become your orgasm in order to move through it?
Can you come undone in the face of fear and become your orgasm in order to come out on the other side stronger and more resilient?
Can you trust and surrender so deeply that you allow yourself to sink into the deepest and most treasured depths of intimacy, love and pleasure?
I mentioned that it’s often where women struggle the most and it’s because we have this deep fear of letting go. We don’t feel safe. We’re afraid to trust, open and receive deeply, which in order to do all of that, we’d actually have to surrender.
I actually just wrote an article titled How to Open Your Heart & Pussy and surrender is a huge key in this. You can read it here.
Something that has really helped me surrender not only in life, but especially in sexual encounters with past lovers and definitely with myself in my self-pleasure sessions is this. Become an offering to love.
If you have a lover or partner and you struggle to let go and trust them fully enough to surrender so deeply that it opens you beyond what you could have imagined, then imagine yourself like a beautiful red rose, unfolding as an erotic offering of love.
Breathe deeply into your yoni, exhale deeply and just melt into LOVE. There’s obviously deeper embodiment work that can and usually needs to be done when it comes to trust, safety and true surrender for women, but one of my favorite practices to do myself and teach my clients is the jade egg practice.
I’m sure if you know me, have worked with me or seen anything else I’ve written or recorded, then you might already know how incredibly passionate I am about every woman using a jade egg. There’s a deeper reason for this beyond what you might expect though.
Sure, the jade egg helps you strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, heal urinary incontinence, awaken your sexual energy and yes, even make deeper vaginal orgasms more than possible.
But the jade egg practice is actually much deeper than that. It’s truly a practice of surrender. Of trust. Of finding and returning home again to the safety of our bodies, pleasure, sexual energy and orgasm. I have a video you might want to watch that goes deeper into why this is, but in all honesty, it’s one of the most sacred, intimate and life-changing practices you can bring into your life. You can watch that video here.
It reconnects you to the precious and innate connection you most likely once had with your pussy, but on a deeper, more profound and orgasmic level.
It helps you heal sexually, unfold, soften, open and find the most beautiful space of trust, safety and surrender, which is what most women are craving to feel and experience. Both with themselves and with a lover.
The key to having ecstatic self-pleasure or sex is surrender as well and I have another video you can indulge in on that topic. It all comes down to having an open heart and pussy.
By the way, if you want to begin or deepen a jade egg practice and really tap into your erotic power, pleasure and orgasmic potential, then I invite you to grab a free copy of my jade egg ebook, Awaken Your Erotic Power Using a Jade Egg.
When you sign up, you’ll also get invited to join me in a couple of weeks when I reveal my complimentary jade egg video salon, which is a free 3-part video series that will take you on a journey through the power and beauty of using a jade egg to awaken vaginal pleasure, harness your sexual energy and connect you back to your deeply erotic and highly orgasmic nature as a woman.
So I have two more secrets to reveal to you. Are you intrigued?
4.) The next secret of an orgasmic woman is that she breathes into her pussy and sexual energy to enhance her sexual vitality and raise her sexual energy to become multi-orgasmic.
Breath is the number one key to working with your sexual energy. If you’re not breathing deeply and consciously, especially down into your pussy, where you typically experience your sexual energy as arousal, then you’re missing out on a whole lot of amazing benefits.
Your sexual energy is your source of creativity, abundance, pleasure and deeper states of orgasmic bliss. It’s your life-force and is the beauty of your radiance, which is what makes you naturally attractive and magnetic to what you desire, not just limited to sexual desire, but your life desires too.
Your sexual energy is so powerful, healing and medicinal that the more you breathe into it and raise or circulate it through your body, the more likely it is that you’ll awaken deeper levels of pleasure, become whole body and multi-orgasmic AND heal any trauma or shame lurking inside of your body.
The easiest way to put it is that if you can breath there and imagine with your mind’s eye that your sexual energy (or arousal) is flowing there, then you have the potential to have an orgasm there. Or feel waves of orgasmic pleasure.
Plus once you implement the secret about trust and surrender, having multiple orgasms will become easier over time.
5.) The last secret revealed of an orgasmic woman is that she uses her pelvic floor as a pump for her pleasure and sexual energy.
This is why I love the jade egg practice so much as well. It helps you isolate the muscles inside of your vagina, which allow you to effortlessly and with great pleasure, learn to pump your sexual energy up your spine.
You just inhale, squeeze your pelvic floor as if you were stopping your flow of urine and imagine that energy flowing up the back of your spine into your brain. Allow the squeeze or pulse of your pelvic floor muscles to be that pump.
Then, place your tongue at the roof of your mouth and exhale, slightly releasing the squeeze, but still having a light hold on your pelvic floor muscles and feel your sexual energy flow down from your brain into your face, mouth, throat, center of your chest and back around again.
You just keep repeating this breathing pattern as fluidly as possible.
I’m really curious to know how many of these things you already feel connected to…or maybe not connected to or even aware of.
You can drop me a comment below, if you like. And since this whole surrender sexually topic is so important and huge, especially for women, I’m going to be back next week with a brand new episode helping you figure out if you crave to surrender sexually and how you can do that on a much deeper level.
Have a beautiful day, lover. Sending you love!
xx
Amber